Years
ago I listened to an audio cassette program that has had a lasting
impact on me. Instant Influence: The Pscychology of Persuasion
by Dr. Robert Cialdini was the name of the program. The information
has since been included in his book Influence: Science &
Practice as well as Yes! 50 Scientifically Proven Ways
to be Persuasive co-authored with Noah J. Goldstein and Steve J.
Martin.
Because
his work explains why we (you, me, all of us) react a certain way in
a given situation, I have become a better communicator and more
effective in helping others. For those of us in Social Media
Marketing and Network Marketing the 6 principles taught by Dr.
Cialdini are invaluable. When you read these 6 principles,
guaranteed you will have an “ah ha” moment.
Reciprocity—This
is certainly easy to understand. When someone does something for us
we want to do or give them something in return. To my way of
thinking, probably one of the greatest examples of this occurred
years ago in airports across the country when members of Hare Krishna
gave passerbys a flower. Even though the person neither asked for nor
wanted the flower, most gave the Hare Krishna a donation in return—at
least in the early days.
Authority—We
look to experts to show us the way. If someone has a title, we
“assume” that they are an expert even though not everyone
graduated at the top of their class. That authority even carries over
into other areas having nothing whatsoever to do with their
particular area of expertise or position.
Commitment/Consistency—In
deciding what to do/not do we want to remain consistent with our
values and commitments. Our commitments are powerful influencers of
our actions.
Scarcity—Again,
this is very easy to understand. How often have we purchased
something just because if we didn't buy it then, we would never ever
be able to purchase it? Same thing in a restaurant; if only a couple
of the Special fo the Day are left, we simply have to have one. The
less available the resource/item, the more we want it.
Liking—The
more we like someone, the more we want to say Yes! to them—sometimes
we even manufacture reasons to say Yes.
Social
Proof—We look to the opinions of others to guide us
which is exactly why word-of-mouth advertising has always been more
effective that traditional advertising. Now, with social media,
social proof has reached an entirely new level. Instead of
word-of-mouth, it has now become world-of-mouth with 78% looking for
peer recommendations vs. 14% trusting advertisements.
Do
yourself a favor. Read or listen to Dr. Robert Cialdini; free
downloads of both books and audios are available online.
Did
you too have an “ah ha” moment when you read these principles?
Hi Janet,
ReplyDeleteThe moment I read reciprocity I thought of my blog friends and how I very much I want to be sure I leave a thoughtful comment on their blogs. After all, they take the time to do this for me. :)
Catherine, aloha. What a perfect example of reciprocity--at least to those of us in the blogging world. Thx so much for stopping by and commenting. Aloha. Janet
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